So is this dating now??

A single friend of mine was describing her dating life to me recently and maybe I've been out of the game too long, but....what the hell?? Guys text girls 5 days later and expect her to come over, drink a bottle of wine and then hop into bed? Is that what dating has come to??? I'm pissed! This isn't right! Let me preface this with one remark: there are two kinds of dating:hooking up and actual dating. Hooking up has no rules. You both are just in it for the sex- period. Maybe you'll share the occasional meal before, but let's be honest, he is NOT relationship material and you know it girl. Dating is different. Dating should involve actual time spent together: 1. during sunlight and 2. not drunk. If you really are looking to find a relationship, these are non-negotiable. At least some of the time you gotta be sober and see what he looks like dressed up, or actually wearing pants and not a tank top and boxers. No judgement here girls or guys, we have all had hookup buddies- there's nothing wrong with that as long as both parties get the deal. But if you are looking to fall in love, have a long term relationship, you are worth a man who will treat you like his future wife, not some chick he hooked up with in a bathroom at his friend Justin's party. Don't go out with guys who don't call you or who only text you at 10:00 at night asking "waz up girl? whatcha up to 2nite?" Not okay. You are worth a man making plans to hang out with you. If he is really into you, he will take the time to pursue you. He will put the effort in. And if he doesn't, he just isn't that into it, and neither should you be. We all want someone who loves us just as much (or more, haha) as we love them. So don't settle for someone who won't put as much into a relationship as you are willing to give back.